If someone asks a loving husband and wife how long they will be in love, and one of them says, “Just while we are young,” would the other feel good or bad? For how long do you want to be in love? Eternally, but first of all, until you die, and then you will want to love eternally.
Eternity is something that represents the whole in the future. To say that one will love until death is to say that he will love by giving everything he has. Isn’t this right? “Eternally” means the whole, and “until death” means an intention to love the whole thing. Only then will your spouse be happy.
These young women here, when they get married, they are sure to ask their husband, “Do you love me?” When their husbands say they do, they will then ask them, “Do you love me completely?” The husbands will have to say they totally love them in order to make them happy. This is the same with men. They cannot do anything about it. This is how things are in God’s harmony. (37-23, 12/22/1970)
When people get married, they say they will love each other until they die. In saying this, one can either just say, “I will love you until I die (Juk-dorok sarang-handa)” or draw out the first word, “Ju-u-u-u-u-k…” for ten years, a hundred years, or a hundred million years, and then say the rest, “…dorok sarang-handa.” Which would you like better? Would you rather just hear it simply as, “Juk-dorok sarang-handa”?
The young women here, how about some answers? You would be happier if your spouse says, “Ju-u-u-u-u-k” for say, a hundred million years, and then “dorok sarang-handa” than if he just said, “Juk-dorok sarang-handa.” The more drawn out it is, the better. If a husband meets his wife and says, “Ju-u-u-u-u-k,” and ten years later, he says again, “Ju-u-u-u-u-k,” and then says “Juk-dorok sarang-handa” after he passes over the age of fifty. If only he can do it, she will say she loves him beyond measure. This is how it is. She will like him, even if he has a big belly and waddles when he walks. (37-25, 12/22/1970)
What kind of people are true wives and true husbands? When people mature, they have a family. Taking their spouse as an eternal partner of love, they should form a family of love where their initial love grows as the days go by. When that love at the family level expands to form a tribe, these tribal members will be eternal embodiments of love, which can expand love eternally. Such a husband and wife will be a true married couple and a true husband and true wife. Also, such a husband and wife will be able to participate in God’s love. (Blessed Family-880)
In the eyes of the wife, her husband has to look the best and be number one. Also, in the eyes of the husband, his wife has to look this way as well. The best relationship is the one that is formed during first love. It is the best, no matter what others say. This cannot be bought at any price. If you can have such a world for eternity, how splendid this is!
Everyone should at least reach that level. The wife should follow and serve her husband well. Such things should not appear just in literature or just as a movie scene. Rather, you should live like that throughout your whole life. Since the best history and best culture had been turned upside down, I have been creating a new history in order to establish such a world and to live in such a way. (23-56, 05/11/1969)
What kind of couple are the ideal husband and wife we speak about in the Unification Church?
They are a married couple who can turn the highest art into reality. They are a couple who can turn the highest literature into reality. Before we come into contact with the highest level of art in the world, the highest and sweetest love shared by the husband and wife has to be the best work of art in the world. It has to be the best work of literature and the real body of literature. (22-269, 05/04/1969)
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